Why Therapy?

Psychotherapy is an effective way of dealing with emotional and psychological problems and concerns such as when you are feeling down or anxious. It can also help you to improve relationships and social interactions and to address behavioural problems such as addictive or destructive behaviour.

The concern of people who visit a therapist is often not just with the psychological symptoms but also what it is doing to them. A symptom such as a depressed mood or being down can leave you feeling isolated and lonely. In therapy we address the underlying cause that will not only change the feeling but also the effect it has on your life.

Who can benefit from therapy?

a. Psychological symptoms and problems

  • When unwanted emotions such as fear, anxiousness, downness or anger are ruling your life and are negatively affecting your relationships.
  • When you feel that your childhood has left you with psychological scars.
  • When your inner world is in turmoil and you are confused, not knowing what to do.

a.  Life and living problems

  • When you experience life as empty or meaningless.
  • When it feels as if you are living in two worlds which are in conflict. One which you show to the world and the other which is inside you.
  • When you have to deal with a loss or trauma.
  • When you feel isolated and lonely, sometimes despite having many people around you.
  • When you know that you have to take a step but cannot get yourself to do so.

a. Relationship issues

  • When you are in a relationship that you cannot get out of.
  • When you are in a relationship that you would like to make work but you don’t know how to.
  • When you are going through or have been through a divorce/separation and you are battling to deal with it or get over it.

What does a therapist do?

The business of a therapist is not to teach but to assist in learning. A therapist can help you to get a new perspective, to feel different about yourself and to understand yourself and others better. The role of a therapist is often in assisting the client to see more clearly. When you are overwhelmed by a problem (in the wood) it is difficult see clearly (see the trees) and the therapist as an ‘outsider’ can help you do see more clearly and gain insight. This can change how you thing feel and do and it will put you in a position to make better decisions about your future.

Process of therapy

Talking to a ‘stranger’ such as a psychologist is sometimes easier than talking to people around you. When you go to a therapist you can rest assured that whatever you talk about will remain between you and the therapist. During the first session I will make an assessment of the problem or concern and we will then jointly decide on the duration and frequency of sessions.

The process of therapy is often not easy, although it can sometimes bring immediate relief. The reason for it not being easy is that you may have to face and work with things that are uncomfortable or painful. Gaining self-knowledge, growing and healing can also be a slow process. There are no short-cuts, although good therapy helps to accelerate the process. The “truth” about yourself and others comes in little pieces, slowly but surely, with emotions fully engaged in the process. Only when it is properly absorbed and addressed, will it result in real change. Psychotherapy can set you on new path to greater contentment and peace.

What services are offered?

Individual psychotherapy

During the first session an assessment is made of the concern or problem. A joint decision is then made on the duration and regularity of the sessions. Usually sessions are once a week on the same time and day of the week. On average, short term psychotherapy lasts between 6 and 20 sessions. At regular intervals a reassessment is made of progress.

Couples therapy

The aim of couples or relationship therapy is to resolve conflict or make the relationship better. The couple is seen together and at times separately. During the first session, the couple will be interviewed separately and then together. For couples therapy to be successful a commitment to the process is required from both the partners.

Young people and adolescent therapy

My practice is situated near the University of Pretoria and close to some of the biggest schools. Many of the current clients are therefore young people (who often have their own unique problems).

Group therapy

I hope to start a therapeutic/growth group in the near future. Please contact me if you are interested.

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